Code of Conduct Agreement

Church of Saint Edward, Hogar Teresa Toda Mission Trip participant Code of Conduct Agreement

I understand that as a participant in this Church of Saint Edward mission trip my actions impact the experience of all the camp participants, future camp trips, and the reputation of the Church of Saint Edward. Therefore, I agree to the following very important principles of our sister relationship between the Church of Saint Edwards and the Hogar Teresa Toda and will read and adhere to the expanded explanations on campamento.blog .

1. Emphasize relationship over resources– A true partnership builds and nurtures a familial relationship over a period of time, a relationship that transcends any single act of working together (such as a project) or of sending a check.
2. Practice mutuality and equality – We each must acknowledge the wholeness of the other. We must be alert to the historic imbalances of power between developed nations and poor countries and how that inequity plays out at all levels of a relationship.
3. Seek to give and receive, learn and teach – A true relationship is a constant give and take. We all bring something to the table, and we all have poverties that need to be addressed.
4. Work to raise awareness of unjust systems and structures, and support “just” systems and structures – By supporting the Hogar, we are supporting a system that educates and uplifts girls to become healthy, educated, spiritual women.
5. Deepen our faith by experiencing the universal, catholic church and by sharing responsibilities as a Catholic Christian – As the Reverend William Nordenbrock of the Missionaries of the Precious Blood explains, “If we approach our partnership as a mutual sharing within the body of Christ, then in our desire to evangelize, we receive the gift of being evangelized, of having our faith renewed.”

In addition, I agree to the following expectations before, during, and after the trip.

Expectations during Preparation for the Trip

1. Attend the monthly preparation meetings. Participate with ideas, suggestions, questions, concerns.
2. Travelers who live far from Bloomington and students are exempt from attending meetings, but must prepare themselves and take on preparation roles. On the trip, they’ll need to make an extra effort to get to know each traveler.
3. Read the preparation information on campamento.blog. Reread “This isn’t what I expected” there.
4. Understand your role(s) on the trip. Prepare your lessons and activities. Learn some Spanish (see campamento.blog “What can I do at camp if I don’t speak Spanish?) and about the Dominican Republic.
5. You are responsible for your passport, travel insurance, and travel clinic recommendations.
6. Purchase your own plane ticket once we decide upon an itinerary.

Expectations during the Trip
The Sisters invited us to the Hogar to be positive role models for the girls. Be respectable, respectful, and responsible.

Self-Care and Boundaries

1. Drink water frequently, at least 64 ounces per day. Simple test to know whether you are hydrating properly: if you are not peeing during the day, you are not drinking enough water.
2. Eat at each meal and snacks. Campamento is not diet time! If you have special dietary needs, pack supplemental food that is stored in a Ziplock bag or otherwise sealed.
3. Sleep – you will need more than you do typically. Bring earplugs, an eye mask, and a battery powered small fan, if these are helpful to you. If you cannot sleep, lie in bed quietly and relax. We take siesta (nap or rest) after lunch each day and go to bed around 10 PM. These are your times to rest and recharge and are necessary.
4. Boundaries – the girls cannot be in our bedrooms or in the supply room. They are familiar with this rule, but may test the limits.
5. Do not smoke, use tobacco, drink alcohol, or use illegal drugs at camp.
6. Don’t be alone with a girl.
7. Respect the property of others, including all program facilities and property.
8. Don’t leave the Hogar property alone or without telling the group leader you’re leaving.
9. Do what you have to do to perform your best. You can take extra breaks if you’re feeling “off”. Just communicate with the leader that you need a break.

Team Membership

1. Attend daily meetings where we pray, reflect on the past day, and prepare for the next day.
2. Communicate your concerns respectfully, be generous with praise.
3. Understand and perform your role(s). Let others do their roles. Proactively help where it’s needed.
4. Follow all instructions of the Sisters.
5. Be prepared and expect for plans to change.
6. Be on time for meetings, meals, camp activities. Cultural concepts differ, but we will be ready on time.
7. Travel with the group. If you do take a side trip after camp, you are responsible for all planning and expenses.

Camp and Interacting with the girls.

1. The girls love getting their pictures taken, but it can get out of hand. Rules:
   1. Don’t let the girls use your camera/phone.
   2. Assign someone each day (or many days) to take camp activity pictures (crafts, stations, circle time, meals, our bedrooms, bathroom).
   3. Don’t social media share any photos of just one traveler and one girl.
   4. At free time, limit photo taking to one photographer. Enjoy sitting with and playing with the girls.
   5. At camp, agree with the Sisters about cameras at the beach. Ideas: one camera to the beach, one day of cameras at beach, or no cameras at the beach.
   6. Sharing on social media – keep in mind that CONANI, the DR Child Protective Services, oversees the home. Other homes have had trouble with child abuse, trafficking, child labor, etc. We only share pictures we’d want them to see.
2. Our camp supply room (we’ll let you know which one that is when you arrive.) is for our team use only.
3. Do not give or accept gifts to any one girl. Even if it seems OK when we’re there, it’ll all come out eventually and feelings will be hurt.
4. Do not show favoritism to a girl. This is hard, but strive to treat everyone equally well.
5. Treat all persons (girls, Sisters, travelers, others we meet) with respect, loyalty, patience, integrity, courtesy, dignity, and consideration – be a Christian. Do not cause any intentional harm (physically, emotionally, or spiritually) to any person in any way.
6. Use positive reinforcement rather than criticism, competition, or comparison when working with the girls or with one another.
7. Do not touch or speak to a girl in a sexual or other inappropriate manner. Do not strike, spank, shake, or slap a girl. Do not humiliate, ridicule, threaten, or degrade a girl.
8. If there is a behavior issue with a girl or girls, tell the leader who can tell it to the Sisters. They will deal with it.
9. Unless I contacted the leader, I have read and understood this Code of Conduct and that as a volunteer ministering to the girls at the Hogar Teresa Toda, I agree to follow these standards. I understand that my behavior affects the entire group and future trips. If I or the group leader identifies that I’m having difficulty upholding any of this Code of Conduct, the leader and I will discuss the issue respectfully. I accept my responsibility and will do one of two things:
   1. I will take a time out from the activities and group. I will take the amount of time I need to prepare to serve appropriately again.
   2. If there is a pattern of difficulty, I will return home by my own means.

Expectations after the Trip

The biggest challenge of camp is finding and recruiting terrific people like yourselves. Good people know good people – tell your friends and family. Please help keep this mission going.

1. Help find new travelers for future trips.
2. Share your experiences with others in your daily life and by helping with reports or tri-fold picture displays for Parish, Sister Parish, or Social Justice events. At the Teresa Toda weekend at the Church of St. Edward, speak during Mass and be available after Mass, as well.
3. Maintain confidentiality with respect to the other travelers and the girls.